Happy Deepavali!!
Okay and I revive the friendly list again
1) Since, New year is far away and Tamil New Year is even further away, here is a resolution I make on Deepavali.
I will bitch less about people ( I know, "Impossible!" you all gasp but I shall perservere :P)
Because along the way, I realised that the bitching had morphed into hypocrisy and though, there is a very fine line between hypocrisy and diplomacy, I have crossed it and I don't like it. And since, I would find it a bit hard to go up to people and bitch slap them for exhibiting faults I have ( As some one once said, "What we don't like in others often mirror what we do not like in ourselves), I shall bitch about them less to salve my soul. And save whatever bits of it is left. (my soul, that is)
2) Well, Jo, Lyd, Long Jin and I were dinner-ing at Swensens and we were having this super heated discussion about love, marraige and kids. (ok la, just lyd,jo and I. LJ offered poignant one liners :]) And I will try to capture the salient points of what we discussed explain why they wanted to smack me till my innards gave way. Okay to be fair to everyone, we started going off tangent (well Jo and I ) and started giving more and more weird and extreme examples to prove that we were right. Okay summary of what we dicussed
Jo and Lyd : Love is but transient and so why bother tying yourself down to an institution (marraige) that is fraught with mistakes and flaws, has a 99% of having a cliff at the end and is based very much on something so flimsy, like feelings. And sooner or later, there is a limit to what you can take. People start staying on in a marraige for reasons other than love, like pragmatism and comfort.
Vasud : Love is perhaps not enough to sustain you through a marraige alone, but that is what marraige is about. Marraige means you have to work through things and it is love that binds the other things that come along with marraige. There is a limit but the limit that is used as a guideline these is perhaps not even a limit. Its seems to be an easy way out. Love does not necessarily have to manifest itself as the "I heart you, you heart me. Let's dance in the rain and celebrate our love" but it is there. Marriages do not always succeed but the ones that do, probably have love in the equation.
[Of course, my explanation is longer and I sound like I'm advertising my viewpoint but seriously, whose Blog are you reading?]
(I also know marraige is spelt as marriage but this is what Law School does to you.)
So basically, we were arguing and arguing and arguing and we realised we could argue till the cows come home and throw words like "cynic" and "romantic" around and we could never see the same way.
But oddly, when I was talking to Jo today, we realised that we were also what the other accused the other was. Its just that we express it in different situations. I am more callous when it is about relationships but when its marriage, I view it differently. But Jo takes it differently. So basically, it was the varying degrees we took in different extremities. Because , at its most basic, marraige is but an extension of a relationship. ( at its most basic) and hence how we viewed the different extremes with varying degrees
So we waste money going to Swensen's to come up with a philosophy in which we all had no problem with in the first place.
Life works in mysterious ways.
WA LAU!
(P/s: okay, its not law school. Its just me
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